Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Maladaptive Beliefs

This is a basic list of the maladaptive beliefs I have come to hold over years of abuse and mistreatment. Please do not in any way feel obligated to argue as to why these are untrue. I know that they are not realistic beliefs to have and it is a long process to destroy them. Thank you for wanting to try and help, though.


  • I am worthless.
  • I'm not good enough.
  • Everybody leaves me.
  • Why try because I always fail.
  • I'm selfish.
  • I'm a horrible person.
  • I'm ugly.
  • I'm a burden to everyone.
  • I do nothing/get nothing done.
  • If I am wrong, the consequences are always dire.
  • Nothing will ever get better.
  • If people don't show me they love me, then they really don't.
  • If I say I am good at something, that makes me arrogant.
  • No one cares about what I am going through.
  • The important things to me don't matter.
  • I can't do anything right.
  • Everyone would be better off without me.
  • I am being punished.
  • I deserve to be punished.
  • If we fight, they won't love me anymore.
  • I'm not safe anywhere
  • If I trust people, they will betray me.
  • Confrontation is dangerous. 
  • If people have a bad opinion of me then they must be right because they can't see things I don't/can't.
  • Letting others know I am feeling bad is a weakness.
  • My friends and family really don't want to hear about how I am feeling.
  • Losing control of my emotions makes me a bad person.
  • If people don't agree with how I feel, then I shouldn't feel that way.
  • I am not allowed to feel I have been wronged by people.
  • I don't deserve what I want/need.
  • Making requests is selfish.
  • The problem is all in my head/I am crazy.
  • Saying no to people will show what a bad/selfish person I am.
  • I will lose people if I ask for what I want/need.
  • Asking for what I want/need will always end in an argument.
  • Getting upset means I am acting like a child.
  • I am not worthy/don't deserve love and respect.
  • I'm not wanted/needed by anyone.
  • All of my ideas are stupid.
  • I will never amount to anything.
  • I deserve to be abused.
  • I will never be safe as long as I am with myself.